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Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids:
8 Principles for Raising Kids You'll Love to Live With

Imagine suddenly looking at behavior differently. When parents learn to replace rewards and punishment with problem solving, fairness, and logic, something amazing happens. Parenting gets easier and children become cooperative and respectful. In Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (AdamsMedia, 2008), Bonnie Harris has distilled her groundbreaking work on understanding child behavior into eight key principles together with practical strategies parents can use to navigate through everyday challenges. What's different here is a fundamental shift in how Bonnie approaches parenting. She emphasizes the parent’s role in self-discipline—staying calm and looking at the child’s behavior as a signal to a deeper meaning rather than a conviction. Misbehavior is the child’s only way to tell parents she is having a problem, not being a problem. Once parents learn how to decode this behavioral language, the rest is a joy.  Read more > Autographed paperback available for $12 plus shipping.  Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids is available in a 5 CD set only through this website for $29.95 plus shipping. Special Offer - Buy both books for $28 and save $4.00. Special Offer — Buy CD sets of both books for $50.00 and save $9.90.

When Your Kids Push Your Buttons
And What You Can Do About It

A certain look, a defiant act, your child "pushes your buttons", and you say things you swore you never would. Blame, regret, shame—does this "spinning out of control" action/reaction cycle sound familiar? Effective parenting is achieved when we connect with our children, understand what their behavior is trying to tell us, and end the parenting "road rage" to give our children the help they may really be asking for. When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and What You Can Do About It (Warner books, 2003), voted one of the top 10 parenting books by the New York Post, will help you discover what your buttons are, where they come from, why your children push them and how to defuse them so you can regain your authority, your sanity, and your children's cooperation and respect.  Read more > Autographed paperback available for $20 plus shipping.  When Your Kids Push Your Buttons is available in a 6 CD set only through this website for $29.95 plus shipping. It includes a 7th CD with pdf files of the exercises from the book. Special Offer - Buy both books for $28 and save $4.00. Special Offer — Buy CD sets of both books for $50.00 and save $9.90.  See Bonnie’s interview on The Today Show

Sowing the Seeds of Non-Violence: Parenting for a New Age

Bonnie’s lecture on CD available here only for $10 plus shipping.

Parent Workbooks

Certified Buttons Educators may order the electronic document of The Buttons Workbook: A Workbook for Parents based on When Your Kids Push Your Buttons for a one time fee of $50 by contacting our office at 603-924-6639 or by email at bh@bonnieharris.com.  Read more > This workbook is also available for individuals who want to supplement their reading for $12 plus shipping.   Read more >

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